"With courage, insight, and empathy, Dr. Pritt has written a book that America very much needs at this moment of confusion about human sexuality. Sharing lessons which he learned with great difficulty while growing up gay and which he has since amplified through his extensive clinical work as a psychologist, Dr. Pritt challenges the premises of the ideology gay activists are now aggressively advancing. As he probes the psychodynamics that generate homosexuality, readers learn why some boys--who were never born gay--become such.
"Dr. Pritt also challenges the thinking of those who see only destructive perversion in homosexuals' same-sex attraction. Proper understanding of such attraction, he shows, may actually guide the gay person toward a better life--a life beyond homosexuality. Informed by profound religious faith, the deep personal commitment and exceptional professional sophistication of this analysis make it very compelling, deserving of widespread attention."
---- Bryce Christensen, author of Utopia Against the Family: The Problems and Politics of the American Family.Contributing editor to “The Family in America.” Editor of several books on the family.
“This treatise is a worthy addition to the literature on LGBTQ issues. Its thesis is contrary to much of the modern trend, but it is a refreshing perspective and one that will appeal very much to some people and may be infuriating to others. It is important that this perspective be recognized as a valuable option in a turbulent political and social scene. Its worth is accentuated by the fact that he actually lived the path that he describes. It will and should have an important impact and deserves a wide audience who will benefit from it.”
---- Allen Bergin, recipient of the Distinguished Professional Contribution to Knowledge Award from the American Psychological Association. Author of many professional works. Coauthor of the Handbook of Psychotherapy and Behavior Change.
“Dr. Pritt writes with the authenticity of personal experience and authority from a long successful practice as a psychotherapist. He is candid about his own spiritual and sexual journey, without being dogmatic. He approaches his writing with both love and understanding.
"This is a bold book, flying in the face of much that we hear in the media about LGBTQ issues. His point of view should be part of the conversation, both within our society and within the hearts of suffering individuals.”
----Eric G. Swedin, PhD, Professor of History, Weber State University, author, When Angels Wept: A What-If History of the Cuban Missile Crisis., winner of the 2010 Sidewise Award.
When Frank Kresen, senior editor at 1106 Design, was first exposed to the concepts contained in our proposed manuscript, he wrote, "It would not be an exaggeration if I were to say that I see the possibilities for this book to be regarded in the future as an important, modern addition to the existing canon of thought in this field — or even a future-facing seminal work in the understanding of male homosexuality in the modern age. Dr. Pritt’s book may be regarded in the future at least as highly or more so than the many exemplars of research in this area."
“This book and website stand as the most sensible analytical discussion of the bewildering topic of same-sex attraction today. The family and peer dynamics behind the gay-identity syndrome are not that complicated! Only the details of any given individual's psycho-history can be wickedly difficult to sort out. Even men who know the truth in an abstract way -- who may have long sensed that their homosexuality is not natural to them -- may not know how to unravel the conflicted and damaged feelings of a lifetime. (Examples abound on the Courage International webpages, for instance.) Habits of self-imaging, formed since early childhood and reinforced in adolescence, can overwhelm a man's whole life. Astonishing fact: even the Catholic Church, which has held the line against homosexual behavior, has not begun to understand what is truly 'diabolical' about the homosexual condition: the accidental relational, social, and nowadays political forces that conspire to derail some young men's identification with their gender. The ignorance of the pastoral and counseling professions will only be enlightened by a gradual accumulation of courageous and well-informed studies like Thomas Pritt's.”
“Dr. Pritt’s personal experience and deep psychological insights makes this book invaluable. Research on the psychological origins of same sex attraction stopped many years ago. Dr. Pritt's research and life experience began just as mainstream psychology began to accept homosexuality as an alternative lifestyle. Dr. Pritt discusses various causes of developmental and psychological trauma that lead to same sex attraction and elaborates methods for healing those trauma's. He offers hope for those choosing to diminish or extinguish homosexual feelings. A much needed perspective!”
“This book has had a significant impact on me. Mostly I purchased it to understand family members and friends and to gain a more educated opinion about some of the LGBTQ+ activism that continues to grow. But it's influenced me well beyond that.
I believe that when you get to know someone and know their story, it's so easy to love them or see where they're coming from. But I think the individual stories sometimes get lost in the throng of public and political opinion. This book was thoughtful, insightful, honest and really made me think about my own desires for wholeness. I feel greater compassion and empathy for those who identify as gay and a realization of how much we can do to help each other along the way. It takes guts to write something like this and to be so open and vulnerable.”
"The Pritts are good writers and remarkable people who have walked a road less traveled with courage, commitment, compassion and divine grace. They describe their spiritual journey and their reliance on a fully loving God.
While they were dating, Tom told Ann about his strong gay feelings and history. They married and raised a large family together. Their book is the story of Tom's “redirected" life, their burdens and their joys. Tom details his path of discovery with candor and humility. He describes the universal and essential need for male to male bonding and validation, and he analyzes the roots of his own gay feelings in personal and psychological terms. Ann writes of her own doubts, searching, and trust in Tom. Their book is both personal and scholarly, with ample footnotes and references to great thinkers and professional research.
Tom’s and Ann’s search for truth led them to the highest levels of learning: Tom with a PhD and a counseling practice as a clinical psychologist; Ann with a PhD and career as a marital and individual therapist. With knowledge and experience, they reframe the causes of gay attraction and the choices open to gay men and their families. “Gay,” they write, describes a person’s feelings and actions, not the person.
Some men with gay feelings will want to move beyond the false, constricting, and discouraging labels others give them including "born this way." If so, the Pritts show them a way through and beyond.
I suspect many gay men who want the advantages of traditional marriage and family life will be drawn to this book.
This book can save marriages, families and lives."
"The measured tone and cadence of this book read almost like careful prose, and as such it is accessible to the average nonspecialist reader: But the treatment is at the same time rigorous enough that even the specialist will find it compelling. The Pritts' diagnosis will resonate with men long perplexed over their own same-sex attraction, and also with men long resigned to it. One reviewer wrote that the book will be infuriating to some readers. I suppose, maybe so: But the presentation is so conciliatory and respectful, so non-accusatory and uncondemning, so full of light and charity, that only a reader determined to take offence, no matter what, will find offence. Tom and Ann Pritt's book has a bright future. It will probably be a gamechanger in the field of homosexual etiology and psychology."
----Clayton C. Newberry
"This book is so very applicable today! Whether you are one struggling with same gender attraction or wanting to understand those who do, this book gives answers! True joy comes in knowing the path to healing and wholeness which this book describes. Very touching personal story and informative professional knowledge and experience blended beautifully!"
"Dr. Pritt takes a very thoughtful approach to a controversial subject. He is respectful of all perspectives while he shares his personal experience and a full career of research and study. The book is well written and seamlessly moves between research and personal experience. Dr. Ann Pritt's perspective and personal experience is a valuable addition to the work."
"Gained Understanding and Compassion. Homosexuality Reframed gave me a great gift! I read it with the hope of gaining understanding and compassion and that is exactly what I received. Tom and Ann share their respective stories candidly and their honesty is refreshing and enlightening."
---- A reader
“Very informative on the subject. The book was excellent. Very informative on the subject and I appreciated the personal history and extensive professional experiences shared by the authors. Would recommend to anyone wanting to know more about his subject, for their own life, a loved one or just in general.”
"I have occasionally worked with gay men and women in my life; always I have felt their pain and a certain sense of irreconciliation; and always I felt a mystifying cloud as to how to proceed. I think two lessons I have learned from this excellent book are first, that brotherhood and sisterhood of man supersedes gender preferences, and second, that all people need to be loved unconditionally. I knew these things before I read the book, but loving and accepting in theory are very different from doing that in real time with real people. I recommend this to any who are searching for deeper insights to help bring peace to this often tumultuous subject."
----John Leslie Hart
A well written, well documented book. Dr. Pritt tells of his journey through a troubled childhood, to being heavily into the gay scene, to coming to recognize the emptiness of that lifestyle and coming the committed decision to leave it behind. He tells of the challenges he has worked through in his healing and recognizes the hand of God in it. He comes to know that he was not born gay and that “once gay always gay” is not true.
Drawing from his own experience and a lifetime study of the matter of male same gender attraction in his professional career, he offers real insights into the issue. He shows how events from one’s early years lead to this disorder — events that on the surface may appear to have no relevance and may have even been forgotten. He shows the way out and gives real hope for the man who truly wants to change.
I highly recommend this book to any man plagued with homosexual inclinations he does not want and to the persons who love and care for those men.
--- Jerry Armelli