"With courage, insight, and empathy, Dr. Pritt has written a book that America very much needs at this moment of confusion about human sexuality. Sharing lessons which he learned with great difficulty while growing up gay and which he has since amplified through his extensive clinical work as a psychologist, Dr. Pritt challenges the premises of the ideology gay activists are now aggressively advancing. As he probes the psychodynamics that generate homosexuality, readers learn why some boys--who were never born gay--become such.
"Dr. Pritt also challenges the thinking of those who see only destructive perversion in homosexuals' same-sex attraction. Proper understanding of such attraction, he shows, may actually guide the gay person toward a better life--a life beyond homosexuality. Informed by profound religious faith, the deep personal commitment and exceptional professional sophistication of this analysis make it very compelling, deserving of widespread attention."
---- Bryce Christensen, author of Utopia Against the Family: The Problems and Politics of the American Family.Contributing editor to “The Family in America.” Editor of several books on the family.
“This treatise is a worthy addition to the literature on LGBTQ issues. Its thesis is contrary to much of the modern trend, but it is a refreshing perspective and one that will appeal very much to some people and may be infuriating to others. It is important that this perspective be recognized as a valuable option in a turbulent political and social scene. Its worth is accentuated by the fact that he actually lived the path that he describes. It will and should have an important impact and deserves a wide audience who will benefit from it.”
---- Allen Bergin, recipient of the Distinguished Professional Contribution to Knowledge Award from the American Psychological Association. Author of many professional works. Coauthor of the Handbook of Psychotherapy and Behavior Change.
“Dr. Pritt writes with the authenticity of personal experience and authority from a long successful practice as a psychotherapist. He is candid about his own spiritual and sexual journey, without being dogmatic. He approaches his writing with both love and understanding.
"This is a bold book, flying in the face of much that we hear in the media about LGBTQ issues. His point of view should be part of the conversation, both within our society and within the hearts of suffering individuals.”
----Eric G. Swedin, PhD, Professor of History, Weber State University, author, When Angels Wept: A What-If History of the Cuban Missile Crisis., winner of the 2010 Sidewise Award.
"The Pritts are good writers and remarkable people who have walked a road less traveled with courage, commitment, compassion and divine grace. They describe their spiritual journey and their reliance on a fully loving God.
"While they were dating, Tom told Ann about his strong gay feelings and history. They married and raised a large family together. Their book is the story of Tom's “redirected" life, their burdens and their joys. Tom details his path of discovery with candor and humility. He describes the universal and essential need for male to male bonding and validation, and he analyzes the roots of his own gay feelings in personal and psychological terms. Ann writes of her own doubts, searching, and trust in Tom. Their book is both personal and scholarly, with ample footnotes and references to great thinkers and professional research.
Tom’s and Ann’s search for truth led them to the highest levels of learning: Tom with a PhD and a counseling practice as a clinical psychologist; Ann with a PhD and career as a marital and individual therapist. With knowledge and experience, they reframe the causes of gay attraction and the choices open to gay men and their families. “Gay,” they write, describes a person’s feelings and actions, not the person.
"Some men with gay feelings will want to move beyond the false, constricting, and discouraging labels others give them including "born this way." If so, the Pritts show them a way through and beyond.
"I suspect many gay men who want the advantages of traditional marriage and family life will be drawn to this book.
"This book can save marriages, families and lives.
"The measured tone and cadence of this book read almost like careful prose, and as such it is accessible to the average nonspecialist reader: But the treatment is at the same time rigorous enough that even the specialist will find it compelling. The Pritts' diagnosis will resonate with men long perplexed over their own same-sex attraction, and also with men long resigned to it. One reviewer wrote that the book will be infuriating to some readers. I suppose, maybe so: But the presentation is so conciliatory and respectful, so non-accusatory and uncondemning, so full of light and charity, that only a reader determined to take offence, no matter what, will find offence. Tom and Ann Pritt's book has a bright future. It will probably be a gamechanger in the field of homosexual etiology and psychology."
----Clayton C. Newberry
"This book is so very applicable today! Whether you are one struggling with same gender attraction or wanting to understand those who do, this book gives answers! True joy comes in knowing the path to healing and wholeness which this book describes. Very touching personal story and informative professional knowledge and experience blended beautifully!"
"I have occasionally worked with gay men and women in my life; always I have felt their pain and a certain sense of irreconciliation; and always I felt a mystifying cloud as to how to proceed. I think two lessons I have learned from this excellent book are first, that brotherhood and sisterhood of man supersedes gender preferences, and second, that all people need to be loved unconditionally. I knew these things before I read the book, but loving and accepting in theory are very different from doing that in real time with real people. I recommend this to any who are searching for deeper insights to help bring peace to this often tumultuous subject."
----John Leslie Hart
"Dr. Pritt takes a very thoughtful approach to a controversial subject. He is respectful of all perspectives while he shares his personal experience and a full career of research and study. The book is well written and seamlessly moves between research and personal experience. Dr. Ann Pritt's perspective and personal experience is a valuable addition to the work."
"Research on the psychological origins of same sex attraction stopped many years ago. Dr. Pritt's research and life experience began just as mainstream psychology began to accept homosexuality as an alternative lifestyle. Dr. Pritt discusses various causes of developmental and psychological trauma that lead to same sex attraction and elaborates methods for healing those trauma's. He offers hope for those choosing to diminish or extinguish homosexual feelings. A much needed perspective!"