Post 78

Post 78                                              Posted 1:30 AM, May 1, 2025

Hello again,

An important principle is that in order to obtain a precisely correct answer, the question must be framed most precisely.  Regarding same-sex attraction….

 If heterosexuality is the biological norm for healthy males and if homosexuality, a taboo in most cultures and an inclination often felt to be uninvited and unwanted, why is gay men’s draw to other men so powerful and irresistible?” Why has it remained unchanged?

From the depths of my soul, I pondered this question. One day the answer unexpectedly came to mind:  THE DRAW IS NOT WRONG OR IMPROPER! RATHER, IT IS CORRECT AND BEFITTING AS IT SIGNALS THE CORRECT PATH TO HEALING. What has been incorrect is the misuse of that urge.

The idea, coming like a stroke of light, was a solution that brought understanding to many related facets. It is paradoxical that what so many believe is wrong and should be diminished and done away with is RIGHT. I concluded that if this draw defines the proper course, it is imperative that it be responded to correctly. It buttresses the point that ONLY through same-sex sociality can the boy within obtain a secure masculine identification.

Responding to this draw is prerequisite to finding completion through union with another of the opposite sex. Males must secure their mature masculine identity through soulful rapport with other men. Therefore, gay and straight men need to cease fighting and build avenues of mutually affirming rapport.

This unrelenting pull is in line with the human teleological imperative, that proper developmental ends be realized. Life is about growth and males were created to achieve gender maturity, to be heterosexual and able to produce offspring. While gays have been detoured and blocked from achieving this degree of completeness, the impetus to finish the route and become mature men, will never cease.

To become mature men, male children need to be normally socialized. Boys need men. If identity-instilling relationships were not experienced during childhood, remediation can occur through social engagements with nurturing heterosexual males.

Unfortunately, gay men short-circuit their unrelenting draw to health when they eroticize their emotional and psychological relational need. Their misinterpretation and adult response to this enticement to fix a childhood need is why homosexuality has remained an unsolvable conundrum for centuries.

The good news is that there is a way beyond gay. It is to recognize same-sex attraction for what it is, the way to psychological wholeness and a higher plane of living.