Post 64

Hello again.

I am grateful and thank all who have liked these posts and particularly for the words of compassion and encouragement. Different influences give rise to same-sex orientation and behavior. Some may relate these posts to their own experience and appreciate certain ideas, while others do not.

Each person’s story is important. Mine includes what I’ve personally learned about homosexuality along with concepts put forth by gay authors and prominent clinicians.

It is likely that most boys are less than ecstatic upon realizing the fixedness  and demanding nature of their same-sex inclinations. As boys become aware of their same-sex attraction, they tend to hide it. Growing up gay entails an early, deep-seated rejection of self for either real or imagined personal deficiencies. Self-rejection is perhaps the first and most pervasive feature of homosexual etiology, not rejection of gay people or “internalized homophobia.” Self-hatred is a hard term, but one does not have to dig deeply to find it. I believe it evolves from various harmful relational experiences preceding recognition of societal condemnation of homosexuality.

After homosexuals organized and rebelled against injustices and cultural norms, any suggestion that gays may have in some way naively contributed to their becoming gay elicits immediate hostility. Any who fail to promote the so-called gay agenda are seen as suffering internalized homophobia and labeled traitors to the cause of gay liberation.

I am not homophobic. I valued the tender supportive care gay men gave their brothers who were suffering the ravages of HIV when the world was largely turning a blind eye. Most gays, like Blacks, give 120 percent and excel in their various endeavors, sports or whatever. Being gay certainly does not preclude their being productive, worthy citizens. I do not vilify gays. I share ideas that point out how they have been misled and support a genuine gay liberation for those desiring change.