Hello again, These TikTok posts can be reviewed on our website: growthbeyondgay.com. My effort is to support men who are unhappy being gay and would change if they knew how. Our book, Homosexuality Reframed: Growth Beyond Gay, can be a useful resource.
In these posts, I have reported that historically, homosexuality has been grossly misunderstood and that clinical helpers, although well-intentioned, promoted goals that were destined to fail. I have presented information, primarily from prominent gay clinicians and gay writers, that highlight important details and features concerning homosexuality. Their words and ideas should carry some weight, as should mine, since we have taken similar journeys. Other posts noted that I grew up gay and spent most of a lifetime changing. I know how to help others if they are able to consider the possibility that their view may not accurately reflect the true lay of the land.
This complex syndrome develops lawfully, and critical details of its workings can be analyzed and understood. Unfortunately, many of today’s gays have grown up since the Stonewall rebellion of 1969 and publication of the text: After the Ball. Most gays have been indoctrinated by the “born-that- way,-can’t-change” dogma. This message is usually first learned from other gay youth and subsequently shared with naïve parents. It is further promoted by gay activists. Nevertheless, new insights can encourage and give hope to men who genuinely desire change.
Many roads lead to Rome, and several etiological factors have been considered that give rise to SSA. Each person has his own story. I invite readers to send me a brief paragraph or two sharing their belief regarding what may have contributed to and encouraged them or a loved one to become gay. Please send these ideas to growthbeyondgay@gmail.com.
I carry no animus for those who value their gay lifestyle. Each person is in charge of the course through their lives.
Now, with personal material removed, I share an encouraging response received from a grateful reader. He wrote:
Reread some chapters recently, and admired even more strongly how psychological truth, personal honesty, and genuine compassion are combined in Dr. Pritt's book. What a socio-cultural tangled mess -- how fascinating at the same time -- this phenomenon of the so-called 'gay' man! Alas, I've studied it and thought about this predicament now for decades! …my experiences … so closely match the arduous journey described in Homosexuality Reframed. …please accept my gratitude for your profound and under-appreciated intervention in one of the most vexed issues of our time.
I believe that gay men can share details of their lives and, that working together, and with caring straight men, we can find further options for growth and fulfillment. From personal experience, I know that men, wounded from childhood, can move rewardingly far beyond doing and being gay. The message and emphases used in these ideas are not comparable with so-called conversion therapy.
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