Both scientist, Simon LeVay, and sex researcher, Alfred Kinsey, engaged in compulsive homosexuality. Both hated their fathers. There is a tie between early physical trauma, body dysphoria, or quality of parent-child relationships and outcomes of adult sexuality. Young boys do not directly choose homosexuality. They become gay as a result of naïve childhood adjustment to trauma. Using innate potentials, every person idiosyncratically evolves his own unique erotic appreciations and responsiveness. Adults have only the erotic desires and capabilities they have conditioned within themselves developmentally.
Many gays are inclined to deny the relevance of masturbation, but in his book, The Homosexual Matrix, prominent gay psychologist, Clarence Tripp, described the tie between males’ masturbation, valuation of the phallus, and homosexuality. Masturbation can relieve stress incident to estrangement from others of the same sex.
When gays precociously employ sexuality as a bridge to their needed same-sex connection and belonging, they have used their mind and body’s potentials prematurely and improperly. Thus, they are, to some degree, responsible for the inversion of their sexual instinct. Accepting this, they can choose differently if they wish. If boys had something to do with the development of their same-sex values and responsiveness, properly equipped with knowledge and motivation, adult men possess the power to change.
Psychologist, Elizabeth Moberly, wrote of “defensive detachment.” Those who have conditioned themselves homosexually sense a teleological imperative to belong, identify, and achieve gender maturity. Yet, they remain apart and fearful of additional rejection. This approach/avoidance tendency is an important dynamic that keeps desiring gays arrested psychosexually and continuing to seek same-sex emotional intimacy and belonging symbolically.
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